You say "The thought of being with you again is fantastic but as you said it wouldn't change how things are in real life. I know that basically states that it would be great to have a one night stand but that isn't what I mean."
You say "In an ideal world I would like to see and be with you in the knowledge that neither of us are pressured afterwards."
You say "But I love my wife, and my family."
I wait. You say all this moral crap but you don't believe it, and if I would absolve you upfront of the consequences of any feelings I might have as a result you would risk it like a shot, like a rabbit down a hole, your cock rising as if it feeds on air.
But still, I do wait.